The Highest Form of Self Care

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Many years ago I felt lost, ungrounded, and full of fear. I went to my teacher Papa Joe and asked him for help. He sat me down with a big grin on his face and said “the wind is trying to speak to you”. I was a bit surprised by his response. I tried but couldn’t hear the wind talking to me. He repeated himself, “the wind has a message for you”. Frustrated, I still couldn’t hear a thing. He said “stop trying and just do it”. I took a long deep breath and got myself as present as I possibly could. I started to sense the leaves on the trees and the rustling sound they made. Not thinking about the wind but feeling it and becoming one with it all around me. Then suddenly, as if a doorway opened, I began to hear but the voice was deep within myself. It was so simple.

“Quieting yourself is the problem and silence is the solution,” Papa said, beaming with pride for my discovery.

This experience changed my life forever. From then on I practiced what I had learned from my wise teacher.

I equated this listening with being the highest form of self care. When we are silent we can detach from all the cords that keep us in disharmony. So we can connect to the truth inside us instead of looking outside for answers and validation.

What could be better then being at home with ourselves?

“In a world, a city, a town, where people claim to be ‘a healer’ no one is more true, more studied, more genuine and powerful than this woman. From a sprained ankle to a heartbreak to a child suffering from ADD her hands on healing and intuitive capabilities will blow you away. You walk in one person and leave another, filled with peace, clarity and a real sense of renewal” ~Dina

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Going Within

In this critical time return to a spiritual way of life, that is the way you will make it through” ~ Chief Arvol Looking Horse

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I read this quote by Chief Arvol and thought to myself “yes, this is the way”. The words hit me profoundly. Some people may be feeling the chaos happening on the planet right now. I know I am. Disease, war, drastic weather changes, and extreme financial insecurity is scary and driving people into more fear.

In my last blog, I talked about slaying your dragons. Fear is one of those dragons. So how does one deal with fear especially in these times of enormous turmoil? Where is safe? What is the truth? What is gonna happen to us or the planet in ten, twenty, thirty years from now? Think about it; we all know the shit is hitting the fan!

Going within is the only way we will know peace. Do you know what this means? Pulling your attention from the outside world and paying attention to your inner world. Your soul, spirit, intuition, and integrity. Your place of knowing. This is what was meant by a spiritual way of life.

When people come to me for spiritual advice or healing, the question is always the same. “How do I listen to my intuition”? The truth is we all know how to listen to our intuition, but just get a little sidetracked from our intuitive voice. The ego’s voice is much louder and has hooks to it. The constant programming being fed to us on a daily basis makes the ego very active. It says we need more, more, more! Come on, how ridiculous is this world of consumerism we live in? How far from nature do we need to go?

So what is being said here might seem like a “nice concept” for a few of those spiritual types out there, but we all need to begin to do this. We need to start making time each day for silence and going within. Taking time in nature, yoga, meditating , and walking. Anything that helps you get PRESENT. That means getting out of your constant mind chatter. Let’s all wake up out of our mind-controlled comas and be here now. So, how do we do this? The answer is you must learn to breathe. When we breathe consciously, it pulls our awareness away from the mind’s control. You do not need to be a master yogi to do this. Even if it’s five minutes a day, you are “doing it”. So just begin to DO IT!

Do I sound bossy or like I am on a soap box? If I do, it’s because this works. There is a war going on and it is inside of us. Never mind changing the world out there. Change yourself first, then you will have something to say. It’s time to slay those dragons. Breathe through those fears and stop letting them control you. Take back your focus and stand present in yourself now.

The indigenous people have the wisdom. What they have been telling us for years is very important now. Start your own personal path. Enter the place within yourself. All this takes is the choice to do so.

For information on my next workshop please go to my group sessions page

Summer of Love

Do you remember when you were young, and hours would go by and your parents would have to drag you from whatever you were doing? We were present, free, and alive. I can remember riding my bike for hours without much thought in my mind other than the moment. Now we have grown up (some of us) and we are responsible and have “stuff to do”, big responsibilities that drag our minds into a constant future. But what ever happened to the innocent child? The pure heart, the joy and passion for being alive.

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As we became older we were shown, or told,  what was the expectation for our existence. We became more and more guarded, and had life experiences that showed us how to be. We were wounded and molded through parents, school, church, society, friends, and developed our belief systems. Little by little we shut down and joined the status quo. We learned to lie and most of all lie to ourselves of who and what we were. If you were to fully stop in this moment and ask yourself, are you living “Your Life”, of who you truly are, what would that answer be?

So, I bet you are all thinking, wait a minute! I thought this was going to be a romantic tale. “Summer of Love”, running on the beach half naked late nights with a hot passionate lover. Well, that might be one chapter of the novel. Nor is this about, drug taking dancing in the fields or a rave in some warehouse. But where I’m heading with this is another direction. Sorry, I’ll save the romantic tales for another blog post.

This however, is a love story about you and your life. Beginning now to unwind all those barriers that were created to “protect you” but were they really doing that?

Could you for a moment imagine life without your worry, fear, judgments, and trying to control everything?  Can you perceive even for a second dropping all your “stuff” and just surrendering to the moment? Allowing yourself to enjoy this time in your life right here, right now. With all your so called problems. You see, at the end of the day, it’s about your mind’s perception.  I myself could give you a list of my woes but I choose not to focus on that, it’s not about your life being “perfect”.  It is about conciousness, wouldn’t you rather be in the state of love and joy?

Can you remember the last time you were in the moment? I mean completely present not already thinking what you had to do next. I’m not talking about being a mindless blissed out space cadet. But a person fully connected and grounded in their body. Loving yourself, exactly as you are, fully in this time and space. My personal bible, “The Power of Now”, brings you through in great detail how the mind constantly hooks us into not being present. It describes fully and beautifully, how we are running after a carrot in our thoughts. This never allows us to be here and just drop in to that delicious place called now. That is the place where love resides.

Remember the old radios on our parent’s car? With big chunky, silver knobs to move through the stations.  This is how we can change our present vibration. We need to tune the station and move the knob on that radio to a new channel. It’s called the station of love. Yes, and it’s that simple. Choose the station of love. And fall completely in love with yourself and come alive at this time. Or this could be called by some of the spiritual teachers, an awakening!

So that’s right! I’m declaring it: “Summer of Love”. Take a big risk, and do the biggest act of love. Letting go of your constant mind chatter. And release your incessant negative thinking. Then get ready to enjoy the beauty life has to offer. Why wait until you are perfect to be ok with yourself? And guess what, it ain’t never gonna happen. The time is now, to drop into love. And just surrender to that beautiful place called “Now”.

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“Shari is a powerful guide and a deeply admired spiritual counselor. She has taken me into the depth of my past traumas and pains and has led me out of them. With her higher insight, she recognizes destructive patterns, negative entities, energy blockages, and then moves them through and out. Every time I see Shari, I am transformed. I am forever grateful for her wisdom, patience, kindness and insight.”

Jeanine Marie Mingé, Ph.D.

 

Photo credit: Richard Lee Smith Jr.