The Life Meant for You

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Many years ago, I remember feeling frustrated with my life . I wanted to change my reality when I stumbled upon a book called, Creative Visualization, by Shakti Gawain. The book talked about using your own imagination to create the life that you wanted. I was intrigued by this ‘new age’ mindset because I desperately wanted my life to change. Like an obsessed addict I followed the book and several other books that I came across. I meditated, visualized, prayed and did positive affirmations with total sincerity. However, the harder I tried to change my life the deeper down the rabbit hole I went.

I know now that I didn’t want to be myself. I wanted to find a magic pill that would transform me into a super star, free of all human limitations. Although I could manifest certain things, like making enough money to pay the bills or shifting my state of mind. Over time, I started to realize the the guy I was deeply in love with, wasn’t the best choice for me. And maybe the things I wanted for myself were only my ego’s need to be filled.

I struggled for years fighting my own mental state . I wanted to bypass doing the inner work and like magic have the perfect life. I would see psychics, healers, and spiritual teachers who said I needed to work through all my inner demons. What a bunch of idiots, I thought to myself. I was miserable. My life felt like Ground Hogs Day. Little did I know that my spirit was patiently nudging me to stop resisting.

The more I visualized a different life with god-universe-spirit-my higher self the more I was giving momentum to my unfolding path. When I look back at myself I have to smile. I spent so much time kicking and screaming. Although now I have enough wisdom to realize there was a bigger plan in store for me and it far surpassed my own limited-finite, ideas..

Today I am helping people who are having the exact same conflict in their lives that I did back then. When I work with them, I suggest that all they need to do is surrender. They nod their head and tell me, “Yes, yes, you’re right. I will surrender,” but as soon as they get back into their lives they forget.

The personality struggles to stay in control but until we are able to surrender to our souls purpose we will continue remain out of alignment. I often think, “why is it so difficult to get this”?

People I know the struggle is real. It took me several years to finally get this.

While things may not be exactly like I wanted when I was younger, (thank god) I am in such awe, because the life I have today is the life I was meant to live. And as far as I am concerned there is nothing better than that!

“The wisdom, grace, and humor(!) Shari brings to her work is of a divine essence. By that, I mean when she speaks – it’s direct, it’s elevated, and it cuts right through all the noise.

It isn’t a blast of good vibes, or cheap flattery – the kind of ego hooks and powerlessness many profit off of. Working with Shari is learning a way of living – with presence, discernment, gratitude, and joy. It’s remembering one’s own eternal and inviolable spirit, in the face of a world becoming increasingly deceptive, fearful, and ego-driven. There’s no greater gift.”
– Georgia Kirtland

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Reversing the Aging Process

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Last December a very close friend of mine died of cancer right after his 31st birthday. To watch his rapid decline was a sobering experience to say the least. The few conversations I had with him while he was in the hospital were simple, yet profound. He had always been the type of guy who loved to be close to nature. He loved surfing, hiking and spent much of his time taking beautiful photographs outdoors. In my last conversation with him, he said, “All I want to do is come home and watch the sunset.”

It was strange how I never grieved after he passed. It was almost like his spirit was telling me not be sad and go out to enjoy that sunset he missed. Not long after that, I went for a long walk and I left my phone behind so I wouldn’t be disturbed. While walking in silence, I heard a clear voice say, ‘live your life.’ I remember my teacher, Papa Joe, used to say that all the time to me.

As I reflected on my current mindset, I could see how I had been letting the overall negativity in the world get in. I knew I was capable of much, much more. I started to ask myself questions, how can I show up for my life more joyfully? As soon as I asked the question I could feel my heart opening. In order to find joy I would need to honor my life force. That’s when I made a choice to commit, by becoming the best version of myself that I could be!

I followed up by making an appointment with an acupuncturist. I listened to lectures on health and spiritual wellness. I watched countless videos by The Medical Medium, by Dr Eric Berg, By Subah Jain, Eckhart Tolle and many more. I was well aware of much of this information already, but the difference came from integrating it into my life. As I started to implement this new life style I started seeing radical results. I felt so much lighter and happier. I lost weight. My skin began to glow. Wrinkles smoothed out. My eyes were brighter. My energy level was through the roof. I slept well. My hormones leveled out. A fibroid I had shrunk completely.

I started to pay close attention to what was giving me energy or what was depleting it, and I would like to share some of that with you:

1.) Change your mindset. Old beliefs are like little monsters that keep you stuck in negative patterns.

2.) Finding a purpose is one of the greatest gifts in life. A purpose will align you with higher frequency.

3.) Although many resentments may feel justified, we need to get rid of them. Holding negative thoughts inside about people, places, or things will only create a vortex that will drain your vital energy. Often when clients get off my healing table they look like they they’ve just come back from a two-month holiday in the Caribbean because they’ve let their resentments go.

4.) I have always been mindful about my diet, but often used foods for comfort. Recently, I changed my diet from mainly proteins to eating plenty of vegetables. I start every morning with a vegetable and fruit smoothie. I don’t eat processed food. I removed all sugar, dairy, breads, eggs and pork. I look for foods that will alkaline my body and kill off any cancer cells and disease. Weight loss has not only become easier for me, its incredibly fun. While it may seem challenging at first, eventually your palette will change. You will actually crave food that is filled with more life force.

5.) Sleep is vital for cell regeneration, so if you’re not sleeping well it needs to be addressed. Do you have stressors that are disrupting your sleep? Have you had your hormones checked for any imbalances? Are you eating the right foods?

6.) Exercise helps renew cells while bringing oxygen to your blood. It is important to increase your heart rate in order to clear stagnation in your body. While doing exercise remember to listen to the body and not overdue it. Also hydrate and drink plenty of water.

7.) Sunlight is one of the best medicines for your body and the best times to absorb the sun is early in the morning or just before sunset. Taking in this natural source of light restores and gives the cells the vitality it needs.

8.) Being in nature helps to not only boost your cells, but increases collagen in the skin. Breathe in the air when you’re in nature because within it lies the fountain of youth

9.) Meditation. In such a hectic world it is critical that we find time for silence. Calming your mind through breathing and quiet frees you from the grips of a busy mind. It doesn’t matter what your spiritual beliefs are, only that you bring your awareness into the now.

10.) Stop doing so much. Do you really need to burn your candle at both ends? Slow down and smell the roses. How many times I hear people say “ I’m too busy”. For your life, health, well being. You see maybe we don’t have to do this only when we are sick and then fighting to live. Maybe we can do this because life is precious and we deserve to be the best.

11.) Gratitude is extremely important because it lifts the vibration in our bodies. As it was told to me by my teacher. Every morning and each night say, THANK YOU FOR MY LIFE.

I’m sure many of you are well aware of these things already, but hopefully this will serve as a friendly reminder so you can see the years of built up toxicity melting away from your entire being.

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“There are many trends to health and healing, and many people claim they can help you . I’ve been led down some pretty dark paths. But no matter how much time or money I had spent on a health issue’s before working with Shari, I never saw much change or result. Maybe one new thing, like a diet change or new supplement. Only to find the symptom to disappear for a moment, but it always came back. I couldn’t keep up! The endless chase of the newest research or test left me drained, and sometimes worse off than before. So when I came to Shari I was riddled with health problems. I thought Shari would just be another one of “those people” (even though the story of how I came to know of Shari is epic unto itself). I was wrong. SHARI IS THE REAL DEAL.”    

~Nicole Mcbride~

Let Go


With the new age philosophy it can often be about how to attain happiness or manifest something outside of yourself. I have found that only by deep listening can I cultivate my true inner voice. The soul’s voice.

As I stared at the sand moving through my fingers I saw the connection of letting go of all space and time. It is only there that one can enter into their own sacred dominion.

Surrendering deep into that sacred space in-between thoughts is where you find the answers.

So dive deep and enter the portal within and you will find it is truly coming back home.

Strange Days Indeed

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“All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now with yourself.”~ Eckart Tolle

A good friend of mine contacted me asking, “Is the energy on the planet really weird right now?”I paused for a moment before answering her. “The energy is weird all the time these days,” I replied.

It seems I’m being asked questions like this more and more these days. It’s pretty obvious to me that we are living through some incredibly strange times.There is definitely something going on.

Thinking back when I was a teenager I became intrigued with the prophecies written in the Book of Revelations. As I read the unfolding events, beginning with war, famine, earthquakes, floods, disease and all kinds of erratic behavior I felt a fire and an urgency coming from somewhere deep inside of me. The prophecies somehow resonated and it felt like my soul was remembering something but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Although I didn’t know how at the time, I knew that the days predicted in Revelations would somehow be my future. And as I look around at what’s going on in the world today I believe I was more on point than I could have ever imagined.

As we move towards an uncertain future I feel it’s imperative that we find a way to come back to our center. I don’t mean next month or when you go on a vacation or sometime in the future, I mean right now.

I can still hear the words of my teacher, Papa Joe, when he told me, “It is time for these destructive energies that have been creating havoc and controlling us for ages to leave the planet but they don’t want to go and will use every trick in the book to stay in control.”

Hearing this years ago hasn’t made my life any easier but what I was taught was that when I get quiet and find that place of neutrality in me, I can feel a sense of ease and comfort. I realize there is no person or place out there that can give me the security or peace of mind that I can only find from deep within. When I am connected to my power and stay present, through conscious breath, I have a much better chance at maintaining balance and equilibrium in my life.

We always need to be careful of who, what and where your mind engages and have discernment in who you let into your energy field. Pay attention to your body and if you feel uneasy, listen to that. This is not a time to go back to sleep.

“Some people think Shari’s work is magic. It’s not magic, actually. She literally goes in and cleans out energies that are getting in the way of one’s true path. Working with her has helped me become more grounded and true to myself.” ~ Joanne Kim

Everyone Needs a Reset

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I’m a bit of a neat freak. I can’t help it. I must confess I am so sensitive to energy that I insist on having a clean home. That’s why it was completely out of character for me to hire Maria, a cleaning lady to come over. But I’m so glad that I did. Let me be the first to say there is nothing like having someone move furniture and get behind all those little nooks and crannies that are hard to reach. When everything was said and done and put back in its place, I can’t even begin to explain the difference in my mood. I felt so much lighter with a deep sense of contentment within. As far as I’m concerned it was money well spent.

It got me thinking, ‘Wow, this is kind of what I do when I work on someone.’ I start by moving through the layers of stuff that has settled in a person’s mind, body or spirit. Afterward the client tells me they feel amazing yet, they find it hard to explain why.

When people ask me what I do, I tell them I start by moving the energy upwards through the different points in their feet. This energy moves through accumulated ‘stuff’ known as blockages that can be stored or held inside the body. It can be fear, repressed emotions, entities or negative energies that need to be cleared out.

For some reason, I am able to see these energies that many people are unaware that they have. Over time, they have become so accustomed to living with it they don’t even realize they have collected numerous energies in their daily lives.

When I think about it it’s a bit like Maria coming to my home with a new and different perspective. She may see a little dust pile that I haven’t been paying attention to or perhaps she moves things around just enough that gives me a new and refreshing point of view.

I have been doing energy healing on clients for years and as I sit here in my clean home I’m so inspired to write this story. I have come to the conclusion that everything needs to be reset so we can have a new point of view. We do it with our cars, computers or by taking vacations. So, I feel it’s important to get help from others in order to clear what we don’t see and what no longer serves us.

“Shari…. Topanga’s best kept secret”  ~  Jaclyn  AWAVEAWAKE  

The Importance of Being Grounded

Grounded: Mentally and emotionally stable: admirably sensible, realistic, and unpretentious. remains grounded despite praise or attention

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Recently I was working with a client, who asked, “How I can I protect myself from negative energies?”

This is one of the most common questions people ask me. I replied like I normally do, “Ground yourself.” She responded with, “Well, How do I do that?” At that point I realized I was being vague and needed to be more specific.
So I looked up the meaning of ‘grounded’ in the Webster’s Dictionary.

With all my years of training the dictionary didn’t seem to do the word justice.
As I’ve learned from my personal experience until you can practice being grounded , it’s just a word.

Looking back at a healing with my teacher, Papa Joe, I remember several people swarmed around him after he had done an exorcism on a woman. Everyone was silent with a humble energetic awe. To witness something so profound changes you forever. So naturally, we were curious to what just took place and started asking Papa Joe questions.

“What was that?” Someone asked. “How did that woman get that energy on her?” “Can that happen to us?” “Is there any way we can protect ourselves from these negative energies?”

He was silent. Then Papa Joe took a long deep breath. “Staying grounded is your best protection.” He further elaborated with, “Stay present in your bodies so negative energies are less likely to enter.”

This rang true for me. I had spent most of my younger years out of my body. I was raised with zero self esteem. Fear ruled my life and I was not grounded at all. I had to learn how to come into my body.

So with my work today I help people address their trauma so they can come back to their bodies and release stored fear.

These are the essentials for grounding:
Spending time in nature
Conscious breathing
Exercise daily
Healthy boundaries with others
Body work
Daily meditation
Mindful living
“In a world, a city, a town, where people claim to be ‘a healer’ no one is more true, more studied, more genuine and powerful than this woman. From a sprained ankle to a heartbreak to a child suffering from ADD her hands on healing and intuitive capabilities will blow you away. You walk in one person and leave another, filled with peace, clarity and a real sense of renewal” ~Dina

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Spiritual Warrior II

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“There is always a spiritual test before being able to attain the next stage of power. Each time you have to make progress, you have to undergo an examination. When Divine manifestations take place, they have also to pass through great difficulties and sufferings as a result of oppositions of dark and anti-divine [occult] forces which have had a hold upon earth since the creation. Those dark powers always oppose the new Lights because they do not want to give up their grip on the earth and sometimes their hostility even takes the form of war on earth, but in spite of all obstructions the Divine Will succeeds at last.”

~ from “Words of The Mother – Collected Works of Sri Aurobindo & The Mother”

A blogger by the name of
Bernhard Guenthe posted this a few months ago. He posts very powerful teachings. Right now they make more sense to me then anything else out there.
“Amazing” I thought, because I was talking about this to someone. We were discussing the spiritual tests that come with the path of a spiritual warrior…the day to day issues that force our attention to be distracted. This might make us question and lose confidence in ourselves, creating a cloudy and fearful perspective on things. You must be quiet and keep some of those doubts close to your chest in anticipation that change is coming. I found this isn’t easy, no matter how much work you have done on yourself, or how powerful you are.

Then to have these forces prey upon our insecurities. How do we see past this darkness? How do we rise above our own humanity to see our path?
Making your spiritual life a priority and listening to that quiet inner voice has to be a priority.

Shut off your phone. Go for a quiet walk in nature and listen……
Go if possible by yourself and not with that “chatty friend” and breath….
If you’re not close to nature… Sit quietly and breathe. Listen to your breath and ask for your highest self to show you the way…
There are positive forces that align when we honestly ask for clarity and help.

Not all souls are here to be a light worker. So this can make you doubt yourself when you talk and compare yourself to others. You may find your perceptions different from others.
Now there is the true test of the Spiritual Warrior. Listening and eventually trusting our own legacy.

 

 

Spiritual Warrior

 “The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire.” ~ Ferdinand Foch

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photo by: Joanne Kim

I had a dream last night. I was looking out of a big glass window in a high rise building. As I looked down at the city I saw a horrific crash—what appeared to be one of the worst car crashes I have ever seen. I saw a woman fly out from the crash flipping backwards through the sky. I realized she had died and her spirit was leaving her body. I then saw several clusters of gold light surrounding the area of the accident. I started crying hysterically, an uncontrollable sob. I somehow saw myself crying and observed my reaction. At that moment a voice said “pray.” I stopped crying and realized my hysterical reaction was an automatic response. I turned around and saw a body sleeping and started yelling to wake them up. The person would not wake up and at that moment I realized I was dreaming.

The dream had me so shaken up and throughout the day I wondered what the dream was trying to tell me. It dawned on me that it was revealing how this automatic response of drama was deeply programmed into me. It became clear I was controlled by my reaction and was being asked to find the strength to rise above. I saw how it is not easy to make that change, like swimming upstream or running in sand. But I realized I could if I made the choice. I thought, “This is a spiritual warrior.” I decided then I would write a blog with the title Spiritual Warrior. I felt there must be other people out their having the same struggle in their own lives.

I thought about how many times I have overcome great adversity that has shaped me into the woman I am today. It has not been an easy path. Being a light-worker is no easy task. I remember all the years working with my teacher, Papa Joe. I began to understand the daily tests one has to endure to become a genuine healer. The idea that most people have of Spiritual Warrior is that of a cartoon figure getting rid of “the bad guy.” But being a spiritual warrior is a choice one must make over and over again. One must choose to keep and hold onto higher vibrations. In other words, becoming a spiritual warrior is a way of life and is not something that happens overnight.

From my viewpoint there is so much chaotic energy in the world today. I feel this is part of the agenda to keep people disconnected from their center. Some say the veil is being lifted. I happen to agree with this.

Are you feeling disconnected from your center? Are you frustrated with what is happening in your life and the planet? Is the fire and the fury awakening in you?

In what ways are you being challenged to develop as a spiritual warrior today?

Shari’s work is perceptive and wise. Her ability to shift my energy toward a place of more clarity is remarkable and consistent.”  ~Eugene Ahn

A Story of Healing

A few months ago, a client wrote an amazing article for the Huffington Post. It was about her healing experience with me. I was moved to see how such a skeptic could change her point of view and wanted to … Continue reading

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“Magic, Miracle, Blessing, Grace”

It has been a year since I wrote my last blog. Recently a client asked if he could create  a video for me in exchange for a session. He asked what I would like to talk about. I did not have a clue what I wanted to say. During the filming he and his girlfriend asked several questions about what I do and my responses surprised me. I had received so much wisdom from my teacher, and I wanted to share this knowledge with my next blog post.

I couldn’t help but think of a time years back when I was a mere pup and was on my extreme spiritual quest. I was lucky to cross paths and work with many powerful teachers, shamans, kahunas and profound healers. However, I was naive and did not understand the spiritual world. I certainly did not know who I was, and hence constantly being attacked by entities and feeling extremely out of sorts. I would think, “Why is this happening to me?” I asked these shamans and healers, but none would give me a straight answer. I became very isolated to the point of feeling suicidal. I had this strange deathly feeling coming from inside of me. Now I need to let you know that I was sick for weeks to the point of feeling I was actually going to die. One day I woke up and realized I had to clear this immediately. I sat like a thunder bolt and stated my intention/prayer to whatever guide or angel would listen. I shouted out, “Please help clear this energy from me now!” I sat with such a force and began to breathe as if were my last breath. Then it was if a hand reached into me and pulled the dark gremlin out of me. As it was leaving my body, it felt miles long. My mind somehow knew that this was energy clearing out from me. What I could not quite grasp was it felt very familiar. When I mentioned it to my teacher, Papa Joe, he pointed out that I was beginning to remember. This was what I had done for lifetimes, which began my new journey as a healer.

Since then several people have asked me, “Can you teach me the healing work that you do?” The answer is I can help awaken what is already inside you.

It has come to my awareness that many like myself are searching for answers. They are looking for purpose and meaning in their lives. Nothing can bring you to yourself but your own quest for spiritual truth and a deep desire to break free.