Finding Your Inner Zen

                                                                          

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Earlier this week when I got out of bed and checked my phone, there were nearly 25 messages glaring back at me. Before my morning coffee I began to scroll and read the frantic texts. So much drama of a big fire that had broken out earlier that morning. 

Wow, here we go again, I thought.

Moments later, as I sipped my coffee I stared at my computer trying to get a read on what was going on. There were so many dramatic images of the fires with the LA Times talking about 80 mile per hour hurricane winds for the next few days. All this first thing in the morning started to unnerve me. Looking up, I heard the trees rustling in such a way that I realized that one tiny ember from the fire could be quite problematic.  I live in the Santa Monica mountains and there were two fires not too far from me. 

“Damn, this is getting intense,” I said to myself. 

What a coincidence, earlier in the week, I had booked a room in desert hot springs, so  I proceeded to pack for my two day adventure. I thought, maybe it’s best to be safe and grab some stuff just in case I can’t get back in. After all, the year before when we were evacuated  we couldn’t get back into the canyon for a week.

It was stressful as I rushed around with the sheriff’s department calling on the phone to tell us to start evacuating. One group text was discussing where the fires were and which roads were open and which ones were closed. When someone said, ‘zero containment of the Getty Fire’ my nerves were completely on edge. 

Just about then my mind flickered back to a conversation I had with a friend over a year ago, that lost her home due to a fire.  I remembered asking if she grabbed all her personal documents when she was being evacuated. “No,” she said. “But why not?” I asked. “I didn’t think my house was going to burn down,” she said, in a solemn tone.

Moments later I was packing my car with valuables documents, clothes but the most important possession of them all, was my precious dog, Violet.  It’s interesting when faced with evacuation how much stuff you have that is not relevant at all.

As I drove down the canyon my stomach was in knots and I realized I was hungry, so I stopped in the local café to order some toast and juice. The mountain community where I live always rallies together in times of stress, so I talked to the locals about which road was best to take out to avoid the extreme traffic. 

Once back on the road, I drove, until finally I made it out of the canyon. I tried to relax by using my breath to move through my anxiety, but I found it almost impossible to calm my mind. The what-if this, or what if that happens consumed my thoughts all morning long. I realized it was hard to find that inner Zen when you’re swimming in a pool of stress. With so much fear in the air grounding  yourself seems light years away. And as an empath, I found it impossible to find my own center. 

While I’m driving on the freeway the only thing I had was this breathing technique, so I used all of my concentration to pull my mind back in.  With complete focus, I pulled my thoughts, feelings and emotions back to the moment. As I did this, I felt my muscles begin to relax as my mind came back to my body.  All of the sudden, a peace washed over me as this presence filled my entire being.

Then I had a realization, geez, this would actually be perfect content to write about in my blog. I mean, after all, isn’t it in these challenging times when people need support to navigate their uncertainty. 

Thankfully, I arrived at the hot springs unscathed, and immediately submerged myself in the warm waters of the pool.  As I let my body sink into this surrender, I was filled with a profound gratitude. The only real peace it seems comes when you are able to tap into the Inner Zen that lies within.

 

“Each session with Shari has shifted my life. Some more than others but always in some way I come out feeling weightless, recharged, and in love with the world. Suddenly I can see with total clarity the gifts and possibilities of my own life. No two sessions have ever been the same because Shari meets you where you are, and works to free you from your burdens and blocks. Best of all, if you study with her for as long as I have, she gives you the skills and insight to do this work on your own. Her healing is always with me, and I carry it as a ray of clean white light I can visit anytime deep in my spirit. She will change your life, if you’re ready to work alongside her.”         ~  Margaret  Wappler 

The Life Meant for You

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 Photo  – Joanne Kim

 

Many years ago, I remember feeling frustrated with my life . I wanted to change my reality when I stumbled upon a book called, Creative Visualization, by Shakti Gawain. The book talked about using your own imagination to create the life that you wanted. I was intrigued by this ‘new age’ mindset because I desperately wanted my life to change. Like an obsessed addict I followed the book and several other books that I came across. I meditated, visualized, prayed and did positive affirmations with total sincerity. However, the harder I tried to change my life the deeper down the rabbit hole I went.

I know now that I didn’t want to be myself. I wanted to find a magic pill that would transform me into a super star, free of all human limitations. Although I could manifest certain things, like making enough money to pay the bills or shifting my state of mind. Over time, I started to realize the the guy I was deeply in love with, wasn’t the best choice for me. And maybe the things I wanted for myself were only my ego’s need to be filled.

I struggled for years fighting my own mental state . I wanted to bypass doing the inner work and like magic have the perfect life. I would see psychics, healers, and spiritual teachers who said I needed to work through all my inner demons. What a bunch of idiots, I thought to myself. I was miserable. My life felt like Ground Hogs Day. Little did I know that my spirit was patiently nudging me to stop resisting.

The more I visualized a different life with god-universe-spirit-my higher self the more I was giving momentum to my unfolding path. When I look back at myself I have to smile. I spent so much time kicking and screaming. Although now I have enough wisdom to realize there was a bigger plan in store for me and it far surpassed my own limited-finite, ideas..

Today I am helping people who are having the exact same conflict in their lives that I did back then. When I work with them, I suggest that all they need to do is surrender. They nod their head and tell me, “Yes, yes, you’re right. I will surrender,” but as soon as they get back into their lives they forget.

The personality struggles to stay in control but until we are able to surrender to our souls purpose we will continue remain out of alignment. I often think, “why is it so difficult to get this”?

People I know the struggle is real. It took me several years to finally get this.

While things may not be exactly like I wanted when I was younger, (thank god) I am in such awe, because the life I have today is the life I was meant to live. And as far as I am concerned there is nothing better than that!

“The wisdom, grace, and humor(!) Shari brings to her work is of a divine essence. By that, I mean when she speaks – it’s direct, it’s elevated, and it cuts right through all the noise.

It isn’t a blast of good vibes, or cheap flattery – the kind of ego hooks and powerlessness many profit off of. Working with Shari is learning a way of living – with presence, discernment, gratitude, and joy. It’s remembering one’s own eternal and inviolable spirit, in the face of a world becoming increasingly deceptive, fearful, and ego-driven. There’s no greater gift.”
– Georgia Kirtland

Let Go


With the new age philosophy it can often be about how to attain happiness or manifest something outside of yourself. I have found that only by deep listening can I cultivate my true inner voice. The soul’s voice.

As I stared at the sand moving through my fingers I saw the connection of letting go of all space and time. It is only there that one can enter into their own sacred dominion.

Surrendering deep into that sacred space in-between thoughts is where you find the answers.

So dive deep and enter the portal within and you will find it is truly coming back home.

Strange Days Indeed

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“All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now with yourself.”~ Eckart Tolle

A good friend of mine contacted me asking, “Is the energy on the planet really weird right now?”I paused for a moment before answering her. “The energy is weird all the time these days,” I replied.

It seems I’m being asked questions like this more and more these days. It’s pretty obvious to me that we are living through some incredibly strange times.There is definitely something going on.

Thinking back when I was a teenager I became intrigued with the prophecies written in the Book of Revelations. As I read the unfolding events, beginning with war, famine, earthquakes, floods, disease and all kinds of erratic behavior I felt a fire and an urgency coming from somewhere deep inside of me. The prophecies somehow resonated and it felt like my soul was remembering something but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Although I didn’t know how at the time, I knew that the days predicted in Revelations would somehow be my future. And as I look around at what’s going on in the world today I believe I was more on point than I could have ever imagined.

As we move towards an uncertain future I feel it’s imperative that we find a way to come back to our center. I don’t mean next month or when you go on a vacation or sometime in the future, I mean right now.

I can still hear the words of my teacher, Papa Joe, when he told me, “It is time for these destructive energies that have been creating havoc and controlling us for ages to leave the planet but they don’t want to go and will use every trick in the book to stay in control.”

Hearing this years ago hasn’t made my life any easier but what I was taught was that when I get quiet and find that place of neutrality in me, I can feel a sense of ease and comfort. I realize there is no person or place out there that can give me the security or peace of mind that I can only find from deep within. When I am connected to my power and stay present, through conscious breath, I have a much better chance at maintaining balance and equilibrium in my life.

We always need to be careful of who, what and where your mind engages and have discernment in who you let into your energy field. Pay attention to your body and if you feel uneasy, listen to that. This is not a time to go back to sleep.

“Some people think Shari’s work is magic. It’s not magic, actually. She literally goes in and cleans out energies that are getting in the way of one’s true path. Working with her has helped me become more grounded and true to myself.” ~ Joanne Kim

Everyone Needs a Reset

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I’m a bit of a neat freak. I can’t help it. I must confess I am so sensitive to energy that I insist on having a clean home. That’s why it was completely out of character for me to hire Maria, a cleaning lady to come over. But I’m so glad that I did. Let me be the first to say there is nothing like having someone move furniture and get behind all those little nooks and crannies that are hard to reach. When everything was said and done and put back in its place, I can’t even begin to explain the difference in my mood. I felt so much lighter with a deep sense of contentment within. As far as I’m concerned it was money well spent.

It got me thinking, ‘Wow, this is kind of what I do when I work on someone.’ I start by moving through the layers of stuff that has settled in a person’s mind, body or spirit. Afterward the client tells me they feel amazing yet, they find it hard to explain why.

When people ask me what I do, I tell them I start by moving the energy upwards through the different points in their feet. This energy moves through accumulated ‘stuff’ known as blockages that can be stored or held inside the body. It can be fear, repressed emotions, entities or negative energies that need to be cleared out.

For some reason, I am able to see these energies that many people are unaware that they have. Over time, they have become so accustomed to living with it they don’t even realize they have collected numerous energies in their daily lives.

When I think about it it’s a bit like Maria coming to my home with a new and different perspective. She may see a little dust pile that I haven’t been paying attention to or perhaps she moves things around just enough that gives me a new and refreshing point of view.

I have been doing energy healing on clients for years and as I sit here in my clean home I’m so inspired to write this story. I have come to the conclusion that everything needs to be reset so we can have a new point of view. We do it with our cars, computers or by taking vacations. So, I feel it’s important to get help from others in order to clear what we don’t see and what no longer serves us.

“Shari…. Topanga’s best kept secret”  ~  Jaclyn  AWAVEAWAKE  

Spiritual Warrior II

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“There is always a spiritual test before being able to attain the next stage of power. Each time you have to make progress, you have to undergo an examination. When Divine manifestations take place, they have also to pass through great difficulties and sufferings as a result of oppositions of dark and anti-divine [occult] forces which have had a hold upon earth since the creation. Those dark powers always oppose the new Lights because they do not want to give up their grip on the earth and sometimes their hostility even takes the form of war on earth, but in spite of all obstructions the Divine Will succeeds at last.”

~ from “Words of The Mother – Collected Works of Sri Aurobindo & The Mother”

A blogger by the name of
Bernhard Guenthe posted this a few months ago. He posts very powerful teachings. Right now they make more sense to me then anything else out there.
“Amazing” I thought, because I was talking about this to someone. We were discussing the spiritual tests that come with the path of a spiritual warrior…the day to day issues that force our attention to be distracted. This might make us question and lose confidence in ourselves, creating a cloudy and fearful perspective on things. You must be quiet and keep some of those doubts close to your chest in anticipation that change is coming. I found this isn’t easy, no matter how much work you have done on yourself, or how powerful you are.

Then to have these forces prey upon our insecurities. How do we see past this darkness? How do we rise above our own humanity to see our path?
Making your spiritual life a priority and listening to that quiet inner voice has to be a priority.

Shut off your phone. Go for a quiet walk in nature and listen……
Go if possible by yourself and not with that “chatty friend” and breath….
If you’re not close to nature… Sit quietly and breathe. Listen to your breath and ask for your highest self to show you the way…
There are positive forces that align when we honestly ask for clarity and help.

Not all souls are here to be a light worker. So this can make you doubt yourself when you talk and compare yourself to others. You may find your perceptions different from others.
Now there is the true test of the Spiritual Warrior. Listening and eventually trusting our own legacy.