The Life Meant for You

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 Photo  – Joanne Kim

 

Many years ago, I remember feeling frustrated with my life . I wanted to change my reality when I stumbled upon a book called, Creative Visualization, by Shakti Gawain. The book talked about using your own imagination to create the life that you wanted. I was intrigued by this ‘new age’ mindset because I desperately wanted my life to change. Like an obsessed addict I followed the book and several other books that I came across. I meditated, visualized, prayed and did positive affirmations with total sincerity. However, the harder I tried to change my life the deeper down the rabbit hole I went.

I know now that I didn’t want to be myself. I wanted to find a magic pill that would transform me into a super star, free of all human limitations. Although I could manifest certain things, like making enough money to pay the bills or shifting my state of mind. Over time, I started to realize the the guy I was deeply in love with, wasn’t the best choice for me. And maybe the things I wanted for myself were only my ego’s need to be filled.

I struggled for years fighting my own mental state . I wanted to bypass doing the inner work and like magic have the perfect life. I would see psychics, healers, and spiritual teachers who said I needed to work through all my inner demons. What a bunch of idiots, I thought to myself. I was miserable. My life felt like Ground Hogs Day. Little did I know that my spirit was patiently nudging me to stop resisting.

The more I visualized a different life with god-universe-spirit-my higher self the more I was giving momentum to my unfolding path. When I look back at myself I have to smile. I spent so much time kicking and screaming. Although now I have enough wisdom to realize there was a bigger plan in store for me and it far surpassed my own limited-finite, ideas..

Today I am helping people who are having the exact same conflict in their lives that I did back then. When I work with them, I suggest that all they need to do is surrender. They nod their head and tell me, “Yes, yes, you’re right. I will surrender,” but as soon as they get back into their lives they forget.

The personality struggles to stay in control but until we are able to surrender to our souls purpose we will continue remain out of alignment. I often think, “why is it so difficult to get this”?

People I know the struggle is real. It took me several years to finally get this.

While things may not be exactly like I wanted when I was younger, (thank god) I am in such awe, because the life I have today is the life I was meant to live. And as far as I am concerned there is nothing better than that!

“The wisdom, grace, and humor(!) Shari brings to her work is of a divine essence. By that, I mean when she speaks – it’s direct, it’s elevated, and it cuts right through all the noise.

It isn’t a blast of good vibes, or cheap flattery – the kind of ego hooks and powerlessness many profit off of. Working with Shari is learning a way of living – with presence, discernment, gratitude, and joy. It’s remembering one’s own eternal and inviolable spirit, in the face of a world becoming increasingly deceptive, fearful, and ego-driven. There’s no greater gift.”
– Georgia Kirtland

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Reversing the Aging Process

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Last December a very close friend of mine died of cancer right after his 31st birthday. To watch his rapid decline was a sobering experience to say the least. The few conversations I had with him while he was in the hospital were simple, yet profound. He had always been the type of guy who loved to be close to nature. He loved surfing, hiking and spent much of his time taking beautiful photographs outdoors. In my last conversation with him, he said, “All I want to do is come home and watch the sunset.”

It was strange how I never grieved after he passed. It was almost like his spirit was telling me not be sad and go out to enjoy that sunset he missed. Not long after that, I went for a long walk and I left my phone behind so I wouldn’t be disturbed. While walking in silence, I heard a clear voice say, ‘live your life.’ I remember my teacher, Papa Joe, used to say that all the time to me.

As I reflected on my current mindset, I could see how I had been letting the overall negativity in the world get in. I knew I was capable of much, much more. I started to ask myself questions, how can I show up for my life more joyfully? As soon as I asked the question I could feel my heart opening. In order to find joy I would need to honor my life force. That’s when I made a choice to commit, by becoming the best version of myself that I could be!

I followed up by making an appointment with an acupuncturist. I listened to lectures on health and spiritual wellness. I watched countless videos by The Medical Medium, by Dr Eric Berg, By Subah Jain, Eckhart Tolle and many more. I was well aware of much of this information already, but the difference came from integrating it into my life. As I started to implement this new life style I started seeing radical results. I felt so much lighter and happier. I lost weight. My skin began to glow. Wrinkles smoothed out. My eyes were brighter. My energy level was through the roof. I slept well. My hormones leveled out. A fibroid I had shrunk completely.

I started to pay close attention to what was giving me energy or what was depleting it, and I would like to share some of that with you:

1.) Change your mindset. Old beliefs are like little monsters that keep you stuck in negative patterns.

2.) Finding a purpose is one of the greatest gifts in life. A purpose will align you with higher frequency.

3.) Although many resentments may feel justified, we need to get rid of them. Holding negative thoughts inside about people, places, or things will only create a vortex that will drain your vital energy. Often when clients get off my healing table they look like they they’ve just come back from a two-month holiday in the Caribbean because they’ve let their resentments go.

4.) I have always been mindful about my diet, but often used foods for comfort. Recently, I changed my diet from mainly proteins to eating plenty of vegetables. I start every morning with a vegetable and fruit smoothie. I don’t eat processed food. I removed all sugar, dairy, breads, eggs and pork. I look for foods that will alkaline my body and kill off any cancer cells and disease. Weight loss has not only become easier for me, its incredibly fun. While it may seem challenging at first, eventually your palette will change. You will actually crave food that is filled with more life force.

5.) Sleep is vital for cell regeneration, so if you’re not sleeping well it needs to be addressed. Do you have stressors that are disrupting your sleep? Have you had your hormones checked for any imbalances? Are you eating the right foods?

6.) Exercise helps renew cells while bringing oxygen to your blood. It is important to increase your heart rate in order to clear stagnation in your body. While doing exercise remember to listen to the body and not overdue it. Also hydrate and drink plenty of water.

7.) Sunlight is one of the best medicines for your body and the best times to absorb the sun is early in the morning or just before sunset. Taking in this natural source of light restores and gives the cells the vitality it needs.

8.) Being in nature helps to not only boost your cells, but increases collagen in the skin. Breathe in the air when you’re in nature because within it lies the fountain of youth

9.) Meditation. In such a hectic world it is critical that we find time for silence. Calming your mind through breathing and quiet frees you from the grips of a busy mind. It doesn’t matter what your spiritual beliefs are, only that you bring your awareness into the now.

10.) Stop doing so much. Do you really need to burn your candle at both ends? Slow down and smell the roses. How many times I hear people say “ I’m too busy”. For your life, health, well being. You see maybe we don’t have to do this only when we are sick and then fighting to live. Maybe we can do this because life is precious and we deserve to be the best.

11.) Gratitude is extremely important because it lifts the vibration in our bodies. As it was told to me by my teacher. Every morning and each night say, THANK YOU FOR MY LIFE.

I’m sure many of you are well aware of these things already, but hopefully this will serve as a friendly reminder so you can see the years of built up toxicity melting away from your entire being.

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“There are many trends to health and healing, and many people claim they can help you . I’ve been led down some pretty dark paths. But no matter how much time or money I had spent on a health issue’s before working with Shari, I never saw much change or result. Maybe one new thing, like a diet change or new supplement. Only to find the symptom to disappear for a moment, but it always came back. I couldn’t keep up! The endless chase of the newest research or test left me drained, and sometimes worse off than before. So when I came to Shari I was riddled with health problems. I thought Shari would just be another one of “those people” (even though the story of how I came to know of Shari is epic unto itself). I was wrong. SHARI IS THE REAL DEAL.”    

~Nicole Mcbride~

Strange Days Indeed

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“All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now with yourself.”~ Eckart Tolle

A good friend of mine contacted me asking, “Is the energy on the planet really weird right now?”I paused for a moment before answering her. “The energy is weird all the time these days,” I replied.

It seems I’m being asked questions like this more and more these days. It’s pretty obvious to me that we are living through some incredibly strange times.There is definitely something going on.

Thinking back when I was a teenager I became intrigued with the prophecies written in the Book of Revelations. As I read the unfolding events, beginning with war, famine, earthquakes, floods, disease and all kinds of erratic behavior I felt a fire and an urgency coming from somewhere deep inside of me. The prophecies somehow resonated and it felt like my soul was remembering something but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Although I didn’t know how at the time, I knew that the days predicted in Revelations would somehow be my future. And as I look around at what’s going on in the world today I believe I was more on point than I could have ever imagined.

As we move towards an uncertain future I feel it’s imperative that we find a way to come back to our center. I don’t mean next month or when you go on a vacation or sometime in the future, I mean right now.

I can still hear the words of my teacher, Papa Joe, when he told me, “It is time for these destructive energies that have been creating havoc and controlling us for ages to leave the planet but they don’t want to go and will use every trick in the book to stay in control.”

Hearing this years ago hasn’t made my life any easier but what I was taught was that when I get quiet and find that place of neutrality in me, I can feel a sense of ease and comfort. I realize there is no person or place out there that can give me the security or peace of mind that I can only find from deep within. When I am connected to my power and stay present, through conscious breath, I have a much better chance at maintaining balance and equilibrium in my life.

We always need to be careful of who, what and where your mind engages and have discernment in who you let into your energy field. Pay attention to your body and if you feel uneasy, listen to that. This is not a time to go back to sleep.

“Some people think Shari’s work is magic. It’s not magic, actually. She literally goes in and cleans out energies that are getting in the way of one’s true path. Working with her has helped me become more grounded and true to myself.” ~ Joanne Kim

The Importance of Being Grounded

Grounded: Mentally and emotionally stable: admirably sensible, realistic, and unpretentious. remains grounded despite praise or attention

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Recently I was working with a client, who asked, “How I can I protect myself from negative energies?”

This is one of the most common questions people ask me. I replied like I normally do, “Ground yourself.” She responded with, “Well, How do I do that?” At that point I realized I was being vague and needed to be more specific.
So I looked up the meaning of ‘grounded’ in the Webster’s Dictionary.

With all my years of training the dictionary didn’t seem to do the word justice.
As I’ve learned from my personal experience until you can practice being grounded , it’s just a word.

Looking back at a healing with my teacher, Papa Joe, I remember several people swarmed around him after he had done an exorcism on a woman. Everyone was silent with a humble energetic awe. To witness something so profound changes you forever. So naturally, we were curious to what just took place and started asking Papa Joe questions.

“What was that?” Someone asked. “How did that woman get that energy on her?” “Can that happen to us?” “Is there any way we can protect ourselves from these negative energies?”

He was silent. Then Papa Joe took a long deep breath. “Staying grounded is your best protection.” He further elaborated with, “Stay present in your bodies so negative energies are less likely to enter.”

This rang true for me. I had spent most of my younger years out of my body. I was raised with zero self esteem. Fear ruled my life and I was not grounded at all. I had to learn how to come into my body.

So with my work today I help people address their trauma so they can come back to their bodies and release stored fear.

These are the essentials for grounding:
Spending time in nature
Conscious breathing
Exercise daily
Healthy boundaries with others
Body work
Daily meditation
Mindful living
“In a world, a city, a town, where people claim to be ‘a healer’ no one is more true, more studied, more genuine and powerful than this woman. From a sprained ankle to a heartbreak to a child suffering from ADD her hands on healing and intuitive capabilities will blow you away. You walk in one person and leave another, filled with peace, clarity and a real sense of renewal” ~Dina

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Spiritual Warrior

 “The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire.” ~ Ferdinand Foch

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photo by: Joanne Kim

I had a dream last night. I was looking out of a big glass window in a high rise building. As I looked down at the city I saw a horrific crash—what appeared to be one of the worst car crashes I have ever seen. I saw a woman fly out from the crash flipping backwards through the sky. I realized she had died and her spirit was leaving her body. I then saw several clusters of gold light surrounding the area of the accident. I started crying hysterically, an uncontrollable sob. I somehow saw myself crying and observed my reaction. At that moment a voice said “pray.” I stopped crying and realized my hysterical reaction was an automatic response. I turned around and saw a body sleeping and started yelling to wake them up. The person would not wake up and at that moment I realized I was dreaming.

The dream had me so shaken up and throughout the day I wondered what the dream was trying to tell me. It dawned on me that it was revealing how this automatic response of drama was deeply programmed into me. It became clear I was controlled by my reaction and was being asked to find the strength to rise above. I saw how it is not easy to make that change, like swimming upstream or running in sand. But I realized I could if I made the choice. I thought, “This is a spiritual warrior.” I decided then I would write a blog with the title Spiritual Warrior. I felt there must be other people out their having the same struggle in their own lives.

I thought about how many times I have overcome great adversity that has shaped me into the woman I am today. It has not been an easy path. Being a light-worker is no easy task. I remember all the years working with my teacher, Papa Joe. I began to understand the daily tests one has to endure to become a genuine healer. The idea that most people have of Spiritual Warrior is that of a cartoon figure getting rid of “the bad guy.” But being a spiritual warrior is a choice one must make over and over again. One must choose to keep and hold onto higher vibrations. In other words, becoming a spiritual warrior is a way of life and is not something that happens overnight.

From my viewpoint there is so much chaotic energy in the world today. I feel this is part of the agenda to keep people disconnected from their center. Some say the veil is being lifted. I happen to agree with this.

Are you feeling disconnected from your center? Are you frustrated with what is happening in your life and the planet? Is the fire and the fury awakening in you?

In what ways are you being challenged to develop as a spiritual warrior today?

Shari’s work is perceptive and wise. Her ability to shift my energy toward a place of more clarity is remarkable and consistent.”  ~Eugene Ahn

A Story of Healing

A few months ago, a client wrote an amazing article for the Huffington Post. It was about her healing experience with me. I was moved to see how such a skeptic could change her point of view and wanted to … Continue reading

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“Magic, Miracle, Blessing, Grace”

It has been a year since I wrote my last blog. Recently a client asked if he could create  a video for me in exchange for a session. He asked what I would like to talk about. I did not have a clue what I wanted to say. During the filming he and his girlfriend asked several questions about what I do and my responses surprised me. I had received so much wisdom from my teacher, and I wanted to share this knowledge with my next blog post.

I couldn’t help but think of a time years back when I was a mere pup and was on my extreme spiritual quest. I was lucky to cross paths and work with many powerful teachers, shamans, kahunas and profound healers. However, I was naive and did not understand the spiritual world. I certainly did not know who I was, and hence constantly being attacked by entities and feeling extremely out of sorts. I would think, “Why is this happening to me?” I asked these shamans and healers, but none would give me a straight answer. I became very isolated to the point of feeling suicidal. I had this strange deathly feeling coming from inside of me. Now I need to let you know that I was sick for weeks to the point of feeling I was actually going to die. One day I woke up and realized I had to clear this immediately. I sat like a thunder bolt and stated my intention/prayer to whatever guide or angel would listen. I shouted out, “Please help clear this energy from me now!” I sat with such a force and began to breathe as if were my last breath. Then it was if a hand reached into me and pulled the dark gremlin out of me. As it was leaving my body, it felt miles long. My mind somehow knew that this was energy clearing out from me. What I could not quite grasp was it felt very familiar. When I mentioned it to my teacher, Papa Joe, he pointed out that I was beginning to remember. This was what I had done for lifetimes, which began my new journey as a healer.

Since then several people have asked me, “Can you teach me the healing work that you do?” The answer is I can help awaken what is already inside you.

It has come to my awareness that many like myself are searching for answers. They are looking for purpose and meaning in their lives. Nothing can bring you to yourself but your own quest for spiritual truth and a deep desire to break free.

The Highest Form of Self Care

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Many years ago I felt lost, ungrounded, and full of fear. I went to my teacher Papa Joe and asked him for help. He sat me down with a big grin on his face and said “the wind is trying to speak to you”. I was a bit surprised by his response. I tried but couldn’t hear the wind talking to me. He repeated himself, “the wind has a message for you”. Frustrated, I still couldn’t hear a thing. He said “stop trying and just do it”. I took a long deep breath and got myself as present as I possibly could. I started to sense the leaves on the trees and the rustling sound they made. Not thinking about the wind but feeling it and becoming one with it all around me. Then suddenly, as if a doorway opened, I began to hear but the voice was deep within myself. It was so simple.

“Quieting yourself is the problem and silence is the solution,” Papa said, beaming with pride for my discovery.

This experience changed my life forever. From then on I practiced what I had learned from my wise teacher.

I equated this listening with being the highest form of self care. When we are silent we can detach from all the cords that keep us in disharmony. So we can connect to the truth inside us instead of looking outside for answers and validation.

What could be better then being at home with ourselves?

“In a world, a city, a town, where people claim to be ‘a healer’ no one is more true, more studied, more genuine and powerful than this woman. From a sprained ankle to a heartbreak to a child suffering from ADD her hands on healing and intuitive capabilities will blow you away. You walk in one person and leave another, filled with peace, clarity and a real sense of renewal” ~Dina

Energy Clearing

Sage is used in cleansing and clearing of energy. Used by the Native Americans and Shamans and becoming more popular by the general public. The smoke is meant to call up to the spirits in prayer and purify the energy of intention.

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Which brings me to my topic this week “Energy Clearing”.

This is the majority of my work. When a client comes to see me I clear their energy. They are completely transformed and feel better than when they first arrived at my front door. After the session they generally ask “How do I clear my energy and keep myself protected in the future?”

There are many ways to clear your energy. Having yourself cleared by a energy worker is most effective. But learning tools and adding them to your day to day life is vital for keeping yourself vibrant and healthy!

As I mentioned in my previous post, “Raising your Vibration” is a start to keeping your energy clear because it keeps you vital and strong. Diet, exercise, plenty of sleep, and a good positive attitude, are all important to your well-being.

Many years back when I was apprenticing with my teacher, I was shown how to clear my energy, as well as that of other people and environments. The first thing he mentioned about keeping yourself clear and protected was grounding. I can still hear his voice with that authoritative tone, GROUNDING. And I might add he is right. If your head is in the clouds and not here and now with two feet on the ground, you are more receptive to allowing energies onto you. When we are grounded, we are connected, we have more life force which aides in a stronger frequency. Also we are less susceptible to “dramas” which are riddled with negatives!!

Now you hear what I’m talking about? We have choice in what we allow to come to us! If we are coherent and present less “stuff” is apt to get past our radar. This is the game, staying as conscious as possible. Which means a daily practice of a spiritual connection. Meditating, journaling, walking in nature, exercise or anything that clears the mind and calms the nervous system and begins to bring us into the present moment, is important for a balanced way of life.

The expression “go jump in the ocean” is one of the most sound pieces of advice anyone could give you. In all the Maori ceremonies they use the ocean in cleansing those negative forces that attach themselves to you. Whenever I would get any negatives stuck to me the first thing my teacher would say would be “Go to the Ocean”. I cannot explain to you in words why this works but trust me, it does.

Awareness is key. First we need the awareness that we are “off” or “not ourselves”. Prayer and intention are, for me, my most common tools. When used with absolute certainty and a genuine heart we can clear most energies. I won’t go into this too much but I do ask for “helpers” to guide and protect me with clearing. It really works and I still to this day am in awe of it!

Aligning yourself to positive people and situations is very important. Asking ourselves: “Why am I here?” “What is my intention in bringing myself to this situation?”  The relationship department is the hardest one of them all and can be tricky. We have to be fully in our integrity with this. And there are plenty of blind and stubborn areas that don’t always want to move because we become attached or don’t want to take responsibility. But this is why we are here, we need to work through these dark areas. To make the choice towards the most positive result for ourselves.

Cocooning is one of the most powerful ways to protect yourself. This ancient technique was demonstrated to me by my teacher. It is a shield that you create around your auric field, to keep away unwanted energies. Since this requires some explanation, it is something I will be focusing on in my next workshop.

And now I want to talk about Neutrality – this is a state of mind, an equilibrium. Not a positive nor a negative, but a completely neutral space. Imagine the serene monk, with a clear, calm expression on his face. Not in the state of love nor the place of resistance. This is where you are untouchable. This, of course, takes years of practice.

I know there are several other things people use for protection. Stones, oils, crosses, sages, crystals, chanting, mantras and various other things. These are wonderful tools for setting your intention, but nothing is more powerful then”Knowing who we are” and standing fully in that. As it once was passed down to me the great wisdom of “I AM”!

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For details on my next workshop, please go to the group sessions page.

“If I could get all my friends to Shari I would in a heartbeat. As a past healer-hopper I had tried them all but all I can say is Shari is the real deal. I have had such phenomenal experiences with her, you’d hardly believe it if I told you. It’s best to go see for yourself anyway. Believe me, you’d be doing yourself a favor. She channels some serious juice that can transmute deep fears and trauma that, who knows, you may have carried for lifetimes. At least I feel she did that with me. Very grateful that she is in my life.Thank you Shari! xoxo”

– Wendy Adamson 

 

Your Soul’s Purpose

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1.) The spiritual part of someone that is believed to give life to the body. 

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Purpose
1.) The reason for which something exists or is done: intention

What is it all about? Life can seem so large and overwhelming. There are so many choices and options. Of course there is all the mental pre programming on how life “should look”. We want to be the best we want to be secure. But what is “Our Soul’s Purpose”?

If you would of sat me down years back and asked me about my purpose, I would of chimed in about how my soul was “meant” to be an actress. How I was here to express myself blah, blah, blah! Now there was some truth to that. My name Shari, in hebrew, means: “to share”. And to communicate is pretty easy for me. But I was lost and coming from a wounded place of needing recognition and acknowledgment. This is however my truth I know several actors that this is truly what they are here to do.

My Soul’s Purpose is to heal and teach others. So how did I finally find my purpose? One, it took several years but that is my story. I have a very strong and sometimes stubborn mind. I did not think in a million years healing people would have been the way to go.

However when I was with my teacher Papa Joe, mentioned in a previous blog post, things began to take a different course. He sat me down and said I was not being honest. He went for the kill in a couple of seconds. From that point forward it was all about waking up from the “Ego’s Hold”. Whenever he spoke to me it was multi-dimensional. One or two words would stop you in your tracks. As if a large bell rang and it vibrated and chimed through all time and space. Time would stand still to the point of almost psychedelia. The wind would begin to speak, colors were vivid, everything felt as if it had quotation marks around them. Guess they were moments of being “awake and remembering my soul’s code” as he would put it!

It seemed so simple to the people around me. “You are so gifted why don’t you just be a healer?” I was always working on my friends in my spare time. But I intellectualized it all that just seemed to simple for me. Simple yes, but very difficult to actually let go and flow with it I did not trust yet. I still thought I was in control.

So many people are off track because their ego won’t let them stay still long enough to face themselves to de-code their own destiny. Especially when they get close to opening that door! Something cleverly distracts them again to flying off in another direction.

Before I go on I feel it’s important to mention this:

If you are searching for your path, purpose, or destiny you can become vunerable. The tendency is go and ask Madame Zora or the psychic of the month your question of “what’s my purpose?” This can get a bit tricky. One is how do you know how clean this psychic is? My experience with this is plenty. I used to be the first to give my power away and start spinning to get my answer. So this isn’t me standing on my soap box preaching. But it takes years to know who’s who in the spirit world. There are so many tricksters. You must have a teacher to keep you clean and in your integrity. All I’m saying is that if you open that door always ask your healer or psychic who their teacher is to ensure they are that they are safe.

So back to my original message:

Discipline is one of the hardest lesson of them all. But very important in pulling in your energy from all those “things” that need your attention: Work, children, friends, family, school and general day to day issues. The phone alone can pull you into a portal. Instagram, texting, facebook, email (old school) so distracting. But where you hold your attention is where the energy is and there you are. You must give yourself silence to focus, be still and listen. The answer is there inside you. Let it open and speak to you and create the space to receive the information. All you need to do is to stop and ask with an open heart “What is my Soul’s Purpose?”. If you ask with sincerity it will begin to set in motion all you need to know about your purpose and why you are here on this planet at this time.

I will be having my second workshop for all the information go to my Group Sessions page!

“Some experiences cannot be explained. But they are transformational nonetheless. Shari has a gift. Her energy work is healing. Her authenticity is glorious. Her lightness of spirit engaging. Highly recommend taking your troubled soul to her and seeing what happens. You won’t regret it.” 
sophia stuart, author of “How To Stay Sane In A Crazy World” (Hay House, 2014)