The Life Meant for You

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Many years ago, I remember feeling frustrated with my life . I wanted to change my reality when I stumbled upon a book called, Creative Visualization, by Shakti Gawain. The book talked about using your own imagination to create the life that you wanted. I was intrigued by this ‘new age’ mindset because I desperately wanted my life to change. Like an obsessed addict I followed the book and several other books that I came across. I meditated, visualized, prayed and did positive affirmations with total sincerity. However, the harder I tried to change my life the deeper down the rabbit hole I went.

I know now that I didn’t want to be myself. I wanted to find a magic pill that would transform me into a super star, free of all human limitations. Although I could manifest certain things, like making enough money to pay the bills or shifting my state of mind. Over time, I started to realize the the guy I was deeply in love with, wasn’t the best choice for me. And maybe the things I wanted for myself were only my ego’s need to be filled.

I struggled for years fighting my own mental state . I wanted to bypass doing the inner work and like magic have the perfect life. I would see psychics, healers, and spiritual teachers who said I needed to work through all my inner demons. What a bunch of idiots, I thought to myself. I was miserable. My life felt like Ground Hogs Day. Little did I know that my spirit was patiently nudging me to stop resisting.

The more I visualized a different life with god-universe-spirit-my higher self the more I was giving momentum to my unfolding path. When I look back at myself I have to smile. I spent so much time kicking and screaming. Although now I have enough wisdom to realize there was a bigger plan in store for me and it far surpassed my own limited-finite, ideas..

Today I am helping people who are having the exact same conflict in their lives that I did back then. When I work with them, I suggest that all they need to do is surrender. They nod their head and tell me, “Yes, yes, you’re right. I will surrender,” but as soon as they get back into their lives they forget.

The personality struggles to stay in control but until we are able to surrender to our souls purpose we will continue remain out of alignment. I often think, “why is it so difficult to get this”?

People I know the struggle is real. It took me several years to finally get this.

While things may not be exactly like I wanted when I was younger, (thank god) I am in such awe, because the life I have today is the life I was meant to live. And as far as I am concerned there is nothing better than that!

“The wisdom, grace, and humor(!) Shari brings to her work is of a divine essence. By that, I mean when she speaks – it’s direct, it’s elevated, and it cuts right through all the noise.

It isn’t a blast of good vibes, or cheap flattery – the kind of ego hooks and powerlessness many profit off of. Working with Shari is learning a way of living – with presence, discernment, gratitude, and joy. It’s remembering one’s own eternal and inviolable spirit, in the face of a world becoming increasingly deceptive, fearful, and ego-driven. There’s no greater gift.”
– Georgia Kirtland

Your Soul’s Purpose

Soul
1.) The spiritual part of someone that is believed to give life to the body. 

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Purpose
1.) The reason for which something exists or is done: intention

What is it all about? Life can seem so large and overwhelming. There are so many choices and options. Of course there is all the mental pre programming on how life “should look”. We want to be the best we want to be secure. But what is “Our Soul’s Purpose”?

If you would of sat me down years back and asked me about my purpose, I would of chimed in about how my soul was “meant” to be an actress. How I was here to express myself blah, blah, blah! Now there was some truth to that. My name Shari, in hebrew, means: “to share”. And to communicate is pretty easy for me. But I was lost and coming from a wounded place of needing recognition and acknowledgment. This is however my truth I know several actors that this is truly what they are here to do.

My Soul’s Purpose is to heal and teach others. So how did I finally find my purpose? One, it took several years but that is my story. I have a very strong and sometimes stubborn mind. I did not think in a million years healing people would have been the way to go.

However when I was with my teacher Papa Joe, mentioned in a previous blog post, things began to take a different course. He sat me down and said I was not being honest. He went for the kill in a couple of seconds. From that point forward it was all about waking up from the “Ego’s Hold”. Whenever he spoke to me it was multi-dimensional. One or two words would stop you in your tracks. As if a large bell rang and it vibrated and chimed through all time and space. Time would stand still to the point of almost psychedelia. The wind would begin to speak, colors were vivid, everything felt as if it had quotation marks around them. Guess they were moments of being “awake and remembering my soul’s code” as he would put it!

It seemed so simple to the people around me. “You are so gifted why don’t you just be a healer?” I was always working on my friends in my spare time. But I intellectualized it all that just seemed to simple for me. Simple yes, but very difficult to actually let go and flow with it I did not trust yet. I still thought I was in control.

So many people are off track because their ego won’t let them stay still long enough to face themselves to de-code their own destiny. Especially when they get close to opening that door! Something cleverly distracts them again to flying off in another direction.

Before I go on I feel it’s important to mention this:

If you are searching for your path, purpose, or destiny you can become vunerable. The tendency is go and ask Madame Zora or the psychic of the month your question of “what’s my purpose?” This can get a bit tricky. One is how do you know how clean this psychic is? My experience with this is plenty. I used to be the first to give my power away and start spinning to get my answer. So this isn’t me standing on my soap box preaching. But it takes years to know who’s who in the spirit world. There are so many tricksters. You must have a teacher to keep you clean and in your integrity. All I’m saying is that if you open that door always ask your healer or psychic who their teacher is to ensure they are that they are safe.

So back to my original message:

Discipline is one of the hardest lesson of them all. But very important in pulling in your energy from all those “things” that need your attention: Work, children, friends, family, school and general day to day issues. The phone alone can pull you into a portal. Instagram, texting, facebook, email (old school) so distracting. But where you hold your attention is where the energy is and there you are. You must give yourself silence to focus, be still and listen. The answer is there inside you. Let it open and speak to you and create the space to receive the information. All you need to do is to stop and ask with an open heart “What is my Soul’s Purpose?”. If you ask with sincerity it will begin to set in motion all you need to know about your purpose and why you are here on this planet at this time.

I will be having my second workshop for all the information go to my Group Sessions page!

“Some experiences cannot be explained. But they are transformational nonetheless. Shari has a gift. Her energy work is healing. Her authenticity is glorious. Her lightness of spirit engaging. Highly recommend taking your troubled soul to her and seeing what happens. You won’t regret it.” 
sophia stuart, author of “How To Stay Sane In A Crazy World” (Hay House, 2014)