The Life Meant for You

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Many years ago, I remember feeling frustrated with my life . I wanted to change my reality when I stumbled upon a book called, Creative Visualization, by Shakti Gawain. The book talked about using your own imagination to create the life that you wanted. I was intrigued by this ‘new age’ mindset because I desperately wanted my life to change. Like an obsessed addict I followed the book and several other books that I came across. I meditated, visualized, prayed and did positive affirmations with total sincerity. However, the harder I tried to change my life the deeper down the rabbit hole I went.

I know now that I didn’t want to be myself. I wanted to find a magic pill that would transform me into a super star, free of all human limitations. Although I could manifest certain things, like making enough money to pay the bills or shifting my state of mind. Over time, I started to realize the the guy I was deeply in love with, wasn’t the best choice for me. And maybe the things I wanted for myself were only my ego’s need to be filled.

I struggled for years fighting my own mental state . I wanted to bypass doing the inner work and like magic have the perfect life. I would see psychics, healers, and spiritual teachers who said I needed to work through all my inner demons. What a bunch of idiots, I thought to myself. I was miserable. My life felt like Ground Hogs Day. Little did I know that my spirit was patiently nudging me to stop resisting.

The more I visualized a different life with god-universe-spirit-my higher self the more I was giving momentum to my unfolding path. When I look back at myself I have to smile. I spent so much time kicking and screaming. Although now I have enough wisdom to realize there was a bigger plan in store for me and it far surpassed my own limited-finite, ideas..

Today I am helping people who are having the exact same conflict in their lives that I did back then. When I work with them, I suggest that all they need to do is surrender. They nod their head and tell me, “Yes, yes, you’re right. I will surrender,” but as soon as they get back into their lives they forget.

The personality struggles to stay in control but until we are able to surrender to our souls purpose we will continue remain out of alignment. I often think, “why is it so difficult to get this”?

People I know the struggle is real. It took me several years to finally get this.

While things may not be exactly like I wanted when I was younger, (thank god) I am in such awe, because the life I have today is the life I was meant to live. And as far as I am concerned there is nothing better than that!

“The wisdom, grace, and humor(!) Shari brings to her work is of a divine essence. By that, I mean when she speaks – it’s direct, it’s elevated, and it cuts right through all the noise.

It isn’t a blast of good vibes, or cheap flattery – the kind of ego hooks and powerlessness many profit off of. Working with Shari is learning a way of living – with presence, discernment, gratitude, and joy. It’s remembering one’s own eternal and inviolable spirit, in the face of a world becoming increasingly deceptive, fearful, and ego-driven. There’s no greater gift.”
– Georgia Kirtland

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Going Within

In this critical time return to a spiritual way of life, that is the way you will make it through” ~ Chief Arvol Looking Horse

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I read this quote by Chief Arvol and thought to myself “yes, this is the way”. The words hit me profoundly. Some people may be feeling the chaos happening on the planet right now. I know I am. Disease, war, drastic weather changes, and extreme financial insecurity is scary and driving people into more fear.

In my last blog, I talked about slaying your dragons. Fear is one of those dragons. So how does one deal with fear especially in these times of enormous turmoil? Where is safe? What is the truth? What is gonna happen to us or the planet in ten, twenty, thirty years from now? Think about it; we all know the shit is hitting the fan!

Going within is the only way we will know peace. Do you know what this means? Pulling your attention from the outside world and paying attention to your inner world. Your soul, spirit, intuition, and integrity. Your place of knowing. This is what was meant by a spiritual way of life.

When people come to me for spiritual advice or healing, the question is always the same. “How do I listen to my intuition”? The truth is we all know how to listen to our intuition, but just get a little sidetracked from our intuitive voice. The ego’s voice is much louder and has hooks to it. The constant programming being fed to us on a daily basis makes the ego very active. It says we need more, more, more! Come on, how ridiculous is this world of consumerism we live in? How far from nature do we need to go?

So what is being said here might seem like a “nice concept” for a few of those spiritual types out there, but we all need to begin to do this. We need to start making time each day for silence and going within. Taking time in nature, yoga, meditating , and walking. Anything that helps you get PRESENT. That means getting out of your constant mind chatter. Let’s all wake up out of our mind-controlled comas and be here now. So, how do we do this? The answer is you must learn to breathe. When we breathe consciously, it pulls our awareness away from the mind’s control. You do not need to be a master yogi to do this. Even if it’s five minutes a day, you are “doing it”. So just begin to DO IT!

Do I sound bossy or like I am on a soap box? If I do, it’s because this works. There is a war going on and it is inside of us. Never mind changing the world out there. Change yourself first, then you will have something to say. It’s time to slay those dragons. Breathe through those fears and stop letting them control you. Take back your focus and stand present in yourself now.

The indigenous people have the wisdom. What they have been telling us for years is very important now. Start your own personal path. Enter the place within yourself. All this takes is the choice to do so.

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